Hello again. I'm Bob Miller ND, and this is part six in my e-mail course on how stress is created in your life,
the specific emotions you feel with stress, and the simple, easy steps you can
take to significantly reduce stress in your life. When you reduce
how life events create stress for you, your success in relationships, school or career will
skyrocket and your self esteem and self-worth will increase dramatically.
A Brief Review
To review, the concept of the Tranquilities program is that sorrow
issues in life create feelings of loss and grief. Next, you experience
fear and then anger. Then, self-esteem and feelings of self-worth are
reduced and finally, all of this creates worry, over thinking or anxiety.
Let's examine what happens when you worry,
think too much or become anxious.
It generally consists of:
- Replaying a past event over and over in your mind, constantly rehashing and
thinking about it.
- Worry that a sorrow issues you experienced in the past or something similar
will happen again in the future.
- Projecting worry onto present day or future events, thinking of every
possible thing that could go wrong.
If this pattern keeps going, your mind is constantly
preoccupied with thoughts of the past and thoughts of the future, while
less and less time is spent on the present moment.
Does This Ever Happen to You ?
Have you ever been reading a book, or someone speaking to you, or trying to meditate or pray,
and realize your mind is off somewhere else, replaying a past event or worrying about a
future event? How would your life improve, if you stayed focused on the present?
When you are absorbed in the past or the future, you are more likely to
make mistakes, have accidents, lose things and miss opportunities.
As you are able to reduce the "worry" , you can focus
your mental attention on those things that will be to your benefit.
Ever Been Worried Sick?
There is an old
adage that says "I was worried sick". There appears to be a connection
between the stomach and worry. That's why performers get "butterflies" in their stomach
before a performance.
However, I'll go one step further and make the suggestion that I believe worry can,
in some situations, actually increase the chance that the thing you are worried about
could happen.
Let me explain......
Lets say you have to speak to someone, make a presentation, or any situation which you are
apprehensive. In the days and night before, you start worrying about what may happen. You think of
how you could mess up, how others may not like what you have to say, and your mind
keeps going and going. By the time you are ready for the event, you are so
nervous that you increase the chance of making the mistakes you were afraid of making.
Here's Some Examples.
Lets say you were mugged and your
wallet or purse was stolen. As a result, you could either keep replaying the
mugging in your mind, thinking about how this could have been avoided or why this happened.
Or, you could be constantly worried that this will happen again. At the extreme, its
possible that you could get so worried that you would never want to leave your house.
This worry could then be projected into other areas of your life. If someone is 10
minutes late, your mind immediately begins to think a mugger knocked them unconscious
and they are laying somewhere hurt.
For another example, you begin a personal
relationship and it doesn't work out very well. You could preoccupy yourself with
thinking through everything that you may have done wrong, what they have done wrong,
why bad things happen, why God is punishing you, etc.
Or you can project these worries into the future, and be so concerned
that it won't work out again, that you act in ways that decrease the chance of
success when another opportunity arises.
Or, you can stop the worry, and move on
with your life.
Here's How You Can Stop Worry in its Tracks
The Three Steps to Releasing Worry
- Step # 1 Identify how the sorrow issues of life create worry and over thinking,
or identify how you worry.
- Step # 2 Explore how you will feel and act when you have stopped worry
and over thinking.
- Step # 3 Use the Serenity Guided Imagery CD to help you learn fast and easy techniques
to let go of worry and have a peaceful mind.
So Let's Get Started With.....Step # 1 Discovering
How Sorrow Issues Created Worry or Over Thinking
Think about how sorrow issues in your life
creates worry in you. Or, just recall some things that you find yourself
worrying about. Think about and discover if you replay the sorrow issue, worry if it
will happen again or project the worry onto other people and events in your life.
Decide if you replay past events, worry if specific sorrows will happen again,
or just feel worried or anxious that
something else may go wrong in your life or to those you care for.
Step # 2
Picturing and Imagining a Peaceful Mind
Picturing and imagining how your life will be when you no longer worry, over think or
feel anxious is the first step in learning to stop worrying.
So Let's Get Started and ......
Answer the following questions for the ways you worry or the things
you worry about;
Question # 1
"What would it feel like if you no longer were worried
about or constantly thought about ________________ ?
Then...Move On To.....
Question
# 2
How would you act or behave differently if you
no longer worried or were anxious?
Question
# 3
How would it feel, if you acted and behaved in the
way you just described?
As we discussed before, just answering these questions puts you on the path to
changing your thoughts, feelings and behavior for the better.
So Let's Finish With.....Step # 3 Use Guided Imagery to Restore Your Self-Esteem
The final step in releasing worry is do the mental imaging work that
easily teaches and instructs you how you can do this.It's for this reason that
Tranquilities for Persons Experiencing Stress includes the CD and aromatherapy blend
called Serenity. The CD gently walks you through the mental imaging
process needed to let go of worry of sorrow issues and helps you find a peaceful mind.
In your next lesson, I will explain in full detail what Guided
Imagery is, how it works, and how you can use it to
create new positive ways of thinking, but until then, here's a brief overview
of the Serenity CD
- Rest comfortably with head phones and close your eyes as you listen to the CD
- Rev. Donna Shenk and myself will be speaking on the CD, and will guide you into a state of
relaxation though breathing and relaxing your muscles. Soft music and the
sounds of a mountain stream and birds will help you deeply relax.
- We will guide you into making a mental picture of worry as a
knotted rope in your stomach.
- We will then gently guide you into picturing and imagining the
knotted rope being loosened and relaxed.(I will explain this in detail in lesson #7)
- You will be instructed to say affirmations and smell the Serenity aromatherapy oil
- Finally, you will be instructed to open your eyes, feeling better than you
have all day.
This entire process only takes about 20 minutes. It may sound simplistic, but it is a
powerful technique that will teach you a fast and
effective way to stop worry in it's tracks.
I believe that guided imagery is the easiest, most effective,
and fastest way to learn these important principles that will change your life.
Learning how to stop worry has never been this fast, easy and
inexpensive.
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Tranquilities for Persons Experiencing Stress is five
CDs of guided imagery that systematically teaches you these five principles.
Learning and implementing these principles in the past may taken years and cost thousands
of dollars.
Now with Tranquilities, in about six weeks, you can learn these principles while
you relax in a chair, listening to the CDs
Put Tranquilities to use right away. Order
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that you can mail or fax to us. The five CDs and five aromatherapy oils are only $49.95
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If you feel that you need some assistance in identifying how you
feel these emotions, or overall need help in understanding how to do this work,
I have trained stress consultants who can coach you step by step through the process
on the telephone.
Stress coaches are $30 per half hour, billed to a valid credit card. To arrange
to speak to a coach e-mail us at coach@tranquilities.com or call 1-877-345-3891
In our last lesson, I will pull it all together
and discuss in more detail guided imagery, cognitive restructuring and conditioned
response. This lesson will show you how easy it is to make these new positive
thought processes yours permanently.
As you learn these principles, you will see improvement in
every part of your life.
For your Health and well being,
Robert Miller ND
If you want to continue with the last lesson, here's the link for
Lesson7
If you want to go back to the previous lesson, here's the link for
Lesson 5
Home page for Stress-Management-Help.com
PS. Remember, there is a Tranquilities coach who can guide you through this process on the telephone.
You can work with your own stress coach who will help you identify your stress emotions and how
you can change your thought processes. E-mail us at coach@tranquilities.com, or call 1-877-345-3892
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